Re: reception party invitees (fwd)

[http://www.dummy.us.eu.org/robert (Robert)]

 > From: Noelle <http://www.dummy.us.eu.org/noelleg>
 > Date: Fri, 31 Oct 2003 06:28:55 -0800 (PST)
 >
 > what??
 >
 > ---------- Forwarded message ----------
 > Date: Thu, 30 Oct 2003 22:33:17 -0800
 > From: Gail <http://www.cox.net/~g3>
 > To: Noelle <http://www.dummy.us.eu.org/noelleg>
 > Subject: Re: reception party invitees (fwd)
 > 
 > Dear Noelle and Robert,
 >     No, I don't think it's necessary to invite anyone from my family. (I
 > think it would be nice if you sent a brief thank you note soon to my Mom and
 > Joan for their thoughtfulness in sending you the card.) Now that I have
 > looked at your latest lists, I have the following suggestions to make. I
 > think an announcement card should be sent (as soon as we can get it printed)
 > to those on the list such as the French relatives that obviously won't be
 > able to attend the reception. You are just announcing to them that you have
 > gotten married, date, place. The other people that you think are likely to
 > be able to attend the reception get an invitation later. Therefore, please
 > redo the list as soon as possible and indicate who gets the announcement and
 > who gets the invitation. Then I will have a more accurate number to talk to
 > caterers to get a quote on price,etc. The way the list is now, not knowing
 > so many of them, I counted 89 people including you and ourselves invited to
 > the reception and 9 people being sent an announcement card. I don't
 > realistically think about 89 people would really attend the reception.

Placate her by making two lists -- one for invitees and another for
announcements.

 > I
 > like the list alphabetized like you mostly have with the squares for those
 > sent an invitation and those who RSVP that they are coming for future use.
 > I'm not sure what to say about gifts. I personally feel that only your
 > closest relatives like ourselves and Robert's parents and your closest
 > friends should be sending gifts. I think I would feel uncomfortable if our
 > friends such as the Axilrods etc whom you know only slightly would feel like
 > they should send you a gift even though they would be likely to attend the
 > reception. Therefore I don't know if it's better to say nothing about gifts
 > on the invitation leaving it up to the individual's desire or to say no
 > gifts on the invitations to those where it would not be so appropriate to
 > send gifts and either say nothing on the other invitations or put
 > information about a gift registry to make it easier for them to get
 > something you actually want.

Explain the gift field more fully, and suggest that the tiny url should be
included in the invitations and that all gifts are optional.  This is the
most open-ended, since, really, I feel we shouldn't expect anything.

 > Love,
 > Gail
 > P.S.
 > Don is recovering from his surgery yesterday ok, except that he ran into
 > some problems in trying to urinate after the anesthesia and had to be
 > catheterized which he found quite uncomfortable. But at least the wound
 > itself seems to be ok.

Ugh.