Re: Family Members

[http://dummy.us.eu.org/robert (robert)]

 > From: Tim Pulling <http://www.launchnet.com/~timp>
 > Date: Sun  May 30, 11:06am
 >
 > Really from: Tim Pulling <http://www.launchnet.com/~timp>
 > >The T/F can be especially tricky for men who are F and women who are T. 
 > >Society tries to mold us into something that we're not and I've been
 > >surprised at the expressions of F by T women and F men can be logical
 > >and duke it out with the best of the Ts.  But it's learned behavior. 
 > >Their experiences growing up encouraged them to develop that function
 > >more than they preferred.
 > >
 > >I'm sure many of the men on this list could share stories of having to
 > >act T when they really didn't want to.  Learning to be cool and distant
 > >and rational.  Acting tough when they'd prefer not to.
 > 
 > Actually I have always tested near the border of T/F.

Me, too!

 > I find at work 
 > especially I am more T, in my personal life I am more F. I always find 
 > that work collegues find me somewhat removed 
 > (the F in me fears the stigma of loner, "he always ate alone, never went 
 > out for beers with us, we didn't think he had it in him to ________"... I 
 > think I watch too much TV).


Actually, I do not fear the stigma of a loner at all -- I am glad of it!
I prefer not to mix with my co-workers; I don't like the way they treat
people and the constant putting down of everything.

 > Two of my best friends are also INFJ, they 
 > seem far more in the F range than me at times. I think when they get 
 > emotional and turn to me, the T seems to crop up again,

Yeah, I do this, too.  And I usually hate myself for it afterwards.

 > maust be the need 
 > for a balance. I still identify as an INFJ though because I share far 
 > more in common with that style than INTJ.

I agree (for myself :-).

 > -tim
 > 
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